Make a shift in the way you communicate with teen grandchildren.

When my grandson Jack turned 13, he and I went to his favourite restaurant for dinner. Afterwards, he said, “This will always be our restaurant, Grammie.”

But this year, it’s different. He just turned 16 and he doesn’t really want to be seen anywhere with me. In fact, the only bond we share these days is the one where we poke each other on Facebook. I guess it’s his way of saying, “I know you’re there. I still love you but I really don’t want to acknowledge you right now, especially in front of my friends.”

I admit I was devastated at this dramatic change in a relationship where we had always shared secrets and basically enjoyed mutual adoration since the toddler days. I was the cool grandmother who took him to Disneyworld when he was six and to see The Hangover (part 1) when he was 12. I got in deep trouble with my daughter for that, but in Jack’s opinion (“Grammie, it wasn’t embarrassing. We learn about that stuff in school.”), I was the “best ever.” Frankly, I can live with my daughter’s reproach as long as I can bask in Jack’s approval.

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