Explore fresh horizons, explore each other and the sex will follow.

I believe that immediately upon arrival someplace new, you must dive or jump or somehow dunk your head under water, be it lake, ocean or hotel pool.

This is a ritual of renewal I swiped from an old friend, the experiential art curator Natalie Kovacs, a woman who wears the word kook with great aplomb. Natko, who quite romantically spends her life wandering the world in search of truth and beauty, wears her birthday suit to wash off the old and welcome the new and the next. Nudity is optional: the important bit is the commitment to starting fresh.

Vacations are a way to stop the merry-go-round and reflect, to carve markers into time as it tumbles past. That said, it is a lot of weight for a getaway to bear, especially when you add in expectations about sex.

Yes, wearing fewer items of clothing (none of them with collar stays or Spanx) can lead to honeymoon-style enthusiasms. You are off the clock, hopefully off the smartphones, there are no chores in the job jar, there has likely been close attention paid to waxes and pedicures and such and you are somewhere in paradise conducive to romance.

Context matters when it comes to sex and the adventuresome factor: what happens in Muskoka stays in Muskoka. A Tripcentral.ca–Ipsos-Reid survey of 1,000 Canadian women found that nine out of 10 agreed that being on vacation was a good way to "rekindle the spark" in a relationship. (Also in the survey, 53 per cent of respondents felt the sex on vacation was qualitatively better than workaday sex.)

Except that leaves 47 per cent who know that things can go so very wrong. Beyond vertigo from trying to balance acrobatics in a canoe, there is sand in your wet bathing suit. If you like each other, these things are funny. If you don't, it is going to be a long, awkward vacation. Most of us probably remember the agony of the last-ditch vacation, trying to salvage a dead relationship with piña coladas.

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