Boomerangst: Turning Dilemmas Into Discoveries – Embrace Your Natural Grey?
Embrace your natural grey or go for a new look? Here, some expert tips on updating your hairstyle.
Q. In the big scheme of things I know this is a minor issue, but it’s a dilemma for me nonetheless. I’m a 59-year-old woman and I’ve been dying my hair for almost 20 years. I turned prematurely grey in my early 30s and left it that way for years until my curiosity got the better of me. I had to see and feel what it was like to go back to being a brunette. Some people loved my new colour (including my husband) and insisted it made me look 10 years younger. Others were disappointed and said they preferred me grey and ‘natural’. I’m contemplating going natural again but I’m torn. (I colour the roots myself so it’s not a big expense.) My husband likes my hair the way it is now. I know it’s up to me in the end, but what, if anything should I consider?
Let a professional do the colouring and highlights, Haerkens emphasizes, since it’s not easy to go lighter or to get the right shade for your skin tone, plus the results are likely to be far superior than trying to do it yourself. You can dye your own roots afterwards but let a pro get you to the right place first. But if you’re not convinced a change is what you’re really craving, then Haerkens has another piece of advice: “Go and try on wigs of different colours and see how you feel. If you love the grey wig, there’s your answer – if you don’t, understand there are options.”
But don’t let fear stop you from changing your look. That’s the bottom line.
“To me it’s more a matter of women just not knowing how to do it any differently. Sometimes we stay stuck in the way we look because we understand that. We know what kind of response we get, we know what to expect. Stepping out and doing something different – although we may want it – can be hard because we just don’t know what to do.”