It takes two to tango

Maintaining a relationship, whether it’s one of long-standing or brand-new, does take a little loving care and nurturing. Here are some suggestions from marital therapist Karen Solomon Ament:

  • Notice, then tell your partner you appreciate the things he/she does for you, however small.
  • An unexpected hug will pay off in emotional capital.
  • Take the time to talk, and listen, to one another daily.
  • Accentuate the positive: Emphasize the attractive qualities of your mate.
  • Treat one another with respect.
  • The freedom to be honest is the key to all relationships.
  • When conflicts arise, don’t let them simmer — negotiate to resolve the issues.
  • Listen attentively, making an effort to understand your mate’s point of view.
  • Kindness is an essential ingredient.
  • Maintaining eye contact, say “I love you” as often as you can.
  • Never be too proud to say “I’m sorry.”
  • Be tolerant of one another’s foibles.
  • Make your own space — this is vital in a healthy relationship.