The Zoomer Report: Marital Fights

Here’s the latest in psychological research on marriage. After following nearly 200 hundred couples for 17 years, the University of Michigan finds that marital fights are actually good for your health. It’s squelching anger, especially when you feel you’ve been wronged, that’s dangerous.

According to the study published in January, those who kept their anger in when unfairly attacked did not live as long as those who expressed their anger. Women in particular may put their health at risk by holding back during arguments with their spouse.

The study author says the first step is to let the person know you’re mad — the sooner, the better. But the key is to express anger constructively — Fear, intimidation, dirty looks, belittling remarks — that’s over the line. As for pouting and the silent treatment, he says do that that only it it leads to talking. The bottom line is passive-aggressive behaviour doesn’t work. The final tip, keep your sense of humour.

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Libby Znaimer, a prominent Canadian journalist specializing in business, politics, and lifestyle issues, is producer and host of The Zoomer Report, a special feature on topics of interest to baby boomers and the 50+. It covers everything from health and wealth to leisure and volunteerism, from the special vantage point of the generation that has changed society in its wake.

Ms. Znaimer is also Vice-President of News and Information for Classical 96.3FM and AM740. Her first book, “In Cancerland – Living Well Is The Best Revenge” – was published in October 2007 by Key Porter.

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