Turning Up the Heat: Inside the Bedroom and Out
By Charlotte Bumstead
Boomers famously came of age at a time when sexual mores were undergoing drastic change. We have come a long way in conquering the taboo obstacles regarding sex. Today, Zoomers are creating a second sexual revolution—one that will forever change the way people view sex and aging.
Shattered are the myths that boomers lack sexual desire. In fact, many studies have suggested the opposite. According to Deborah Nedelman—a clinical psychologist and co-founder of Women Beyond 50—14 per cent of women aged 50-plus experience an increase in their sex drive. Statistics showing increased life expectancy propose the ages of 65 to 75 to be a “golden age” for many women.
Therefore, we at Zoomer understand there is a wide audience continuously curious about sex, with an ongoing desire to spice up their sex life. This is why we have gathered the following expert advice for enhancing the quality (and quantity) of your steamy romance.
Schedule Sex Dates
There are numerous factors in our daily activity that can put a damper on our sex lives—health being one of major influence. But our regular routine can also have an effect. Joan Price, author of Better Than I Ever Expected, says, “Even though [people] think of us as aging, we are very busy—we’re as busy as we’ve been at any other time in our life. We often find we don’t have time, and won’t make time, for the kind of leisurely sex that really is good for us at this age.” Set some time aside for sex wherever you can find it. Schedule as much time as you can—make it two hours, or a whole afternoon—to fully enjoy the pleasure of passion and spare yourself from usual stresses.
Indulge in Erotic Literature
Try some bedtime reading that is not meant to put you asleep. Read erotic novels to each other to elevate your mood. Or purchase some sexual self-help books and take turns with you partner, highlighting the activities you are willing to try. You might be surprised with what you find and this could lead you to developing some new fantasies of your own. Don’t be afraid to share your fantasies. “You don’t even have to do it,” says Price, on acting out your imagination. “Let’s face it; often fantasy is better than the reality when you try it. But sharing the fantasy—that can be hot.”