Take Your Position
Wrecked your knees playing squash or strained your back water-skiing at the cottage? If your daytime activities have hampered your nighttime pleasure, there’s more than one way to ensure that your love life is no pain, all gain.
By Kristen Laborde
1. Where it hurts:
Lying on the side
If a woman has joint pain in the hips, separating the legs can be difficult, so try lying on the side. “This way you can keep your legs together,” advises Chandra Farrer, a physiotherapist at Women’s College Hospital in Toronto.
2. Where it hurts:
“There are ways of doing it doggie style, where the woman does all the motions and the man stays still,” says David McKenzie, PhD, a marriage consultant and sex therapist in Vancouver. The goal is to take away as much range of movement in your joints as possible to reduce the amount of pain.
3. Where it hurts:
“Avoid activity that puts undue pressure on your spine,” says Tanya Long, national education manager at Osteoporosis Canada. Try a variation on the standard missionary that positions his legs outside hers.
4. Where it hurts:
Back and hips (both)
Take a load off your back and hips with a side-by-side position facing each other. “This takes pressure and body weight off the back and hips,” according to Dr. Monique Camerlain, a consulting member of the Department of Rheumatology at the University of Sherbrooke’s medical centre.
5. Where it hurts:
Give sore knees a break by lying on your side, back to front, in the classic cuddle position. “Lying sideways means that the person in pain has less movement to perform,” Farrer says. Also try putting a pillow between your knees.
6. Where it hurts:
Back or upper body,
hips and knees (him)